Hey, friends. How’s everyone’s week going? Mine has been picking up quite a bit recently. We’re gearing up for a new school year, which means there’s a lot of planning and organizing to get ready for it.
I’m popping in today to share my thoughts on, well…..judgy people on the internet. It’s been on my mind a lot, lately, particularly in the past couple weeks. I’ve been reading way too many articles. Maybe it’s just the nature of people being online all the time, but have you noticed everyone feels super entitled to give you their opinion? Given my smaller online audience than most, I don’t tend to get as much of the negative feedback as a lot of other people, but every time I see a “comments” section I see others feeling the need to tell you why your choices suck.
From news articles to Facebook posts to blogs, and everything in-between, there’s always the opportunity to provide feedback and it’s opened my eyes to just how judgemental people can be.
Exhibit A: Breastfeeding vs. bottle feeding
Exhibit B: SAHM vs. working mom vs. not wanting to be a mom. Insert snide “must be nice…” comments here
Exhibit C: Vegetarian/vegan/flexitarian/pescatarian/meat lovers pizza all day long. FAST FOOD
Exhibit D: Being environmentally friendly: how dare you drink bottled water?!
I look at those things above and, let’s face it, these are not life or death choices. NO ONE is going to die today because I decide to do cardio before lifting weights. So why do people feel the need to pick apart the choices of others and rub it in their faces? In the words of The Great Carrie Bradshaw, are we “should-ing” all over ourselves?
We get it, you recycle. So do I! You know what I don’t do, though? I don’t carry glass containers to the grocery store with me and only buy food that doesn’t come in packaging so I can cut down on waste. It’s a great idea and I’m super happy for you if you manage to do that every time you go shopping. I just don’t. So please don’t make me feel like a failure because I haven’t managed to become perfect for you.
*Side note- no one’s actually made me feel bad for not shopping with glass containers. I’m just using it as an example.
*Side side note- how does anyone manage to go grocery shopping with zero waste? Have you been to a Food Lion lately? I’m genuinely curious.
For a real-life example, though, I recently decided to cut back on my meat consumption. I have a few different reasons for it and it’s certainly not a perfect plan, but I’m making an effort and it’s actually going well so far. I almost didn’t mention it on here because I knew to some people, it wouldn’t be good enough. I could already hear the judgy comments in my head- “you can’t say you love animals and eat dead cows!” “you can’t decide to be vegetarian most of the time, but not all of the time!” “It’s a little hypocritical, don’t you think?”
Yes. It is hypocritical. I am hypocritical ALL. THE. TIME. We all are! You know why? Because it is impossible to be perfect. And I am done trying.
So today, in this post, I am going to purge the negativity from my life. Well, my internet life anyway. Very few people are actually that rude to your face. So, in the effort of letting it go and just chilling for one damn second, here are many of my imperfections that I don’t plan on changing just because someone else does it “better.”
My List of Imperfections (As of 8/9/17 at approximately 11:30 AM)
- Lying to my doctor about being a “moderate social drinker”
- I lift lighter weights because I don’t want to get bulky
- I only remember to floss once a week
- I sleep in my makeup most nights
- I use SPF 15 and tell my dermatologist I use at least 30 so she won’t yell at me
- Sometimes I “go for a run” and walk half of it, but only tell people about the running part
- I drive a non-hybrid car. Even when I could technically walk. Then I go and scoff about the news and how “no one seems to care about the planet I guess!”
- I occasionally shake my Fitbit wrist while laying in bed to get those last 500 steps for the day, especially if someone on my Fitbit friend list is above me
- I am competitive
- Sometimes I airbrush photos of myself before posting them online
- Sometimes I also slim my upper arms
- Sometimes my thighs get a makeover if it’s an especially bad angle
- They say the camera adds 10 lbs. I’m just taking them back off, ok?
- Sometimes I eat potato chips for lunch
- I took a spinning class one time and faked turning up the resistance when everyone else did.
- I hit snooze like 7 times before getting up and “they” say you shouldn’t do that
- I tell people I don’t care about the number on the scale, then I make the nurse who weighs me take 5 lbs off on her little sheet thingy
- When asked, “paper or plastic?” I choose plastic so I can use the bags to clean the litter box
- I act like I don’t care how many likes I get, but EVERYONE CARES ABOUT LIKES
This is by no means a comprehensive list. I have many deeper personality flaws that we won’t get into here, but at least I’m owning it. I won’t even pretend not to judge others for their personal choices. Anyone who tries to tell you they “never judge” is lying to you. What I will do is try to catch the judgy thoughts when they come into my head, remind myself it’s none of my damn business, and keep those thoughts to myself.
<steps off soapbox> The End.
What “imperfections” are you owning today?